Naked Dating

Naked Quick-Fire Questions: Sexting, Anal, and Double Standards

Here we go with our quick-fire installment of answering your questions (ask yours here!), we cover four interesting questions that range from anal to double standards in online dating. The best part? We answer each one within five minutes! Want to yell at us on Twitter, just hashtag your tweet #nakeddating or send it to @smichm or @jeremywright.

First question is from WhatsInAName

What to do when you call your new date by the wrong name (happens to be your ex’s name) when you’re having sex for the first time?

Mel’s Response

Run for the hills. Nothing puts out the “let’s get busy” fire quite like the wrong name, especially if you two aren’t in the habit of role play. More than a mood-killer, its a serious blow to your lover’s ego and you’ll end your chances before you even had them… nawt that I know from experience *cough*

Jer’s Response

Laugh. Seriously, we’re all grown up enough that if you can’t laugh and have fun during sex without taking an ego hit, then you’re Doing It Wrong. You should be sensitive about it, but when your partner is able to laugh, you know you’ve got a keeper. If your partner does have an issue though? You’d be the world’s biggest douchetard to not be sensitive enough to make up for it in a big way. After all, it was your fuckup.

Second question is from BackAttack

How long into a relationship do you have to wait before demanding anal?

Jer’s Response

Demand? Seriously, demand?! Pretty sure the only time you get to demand anal is if your partner was stupid enough to give you a coupon for “Free Rump Luvin’”. And even then, you probably want to make sure they’re, erm, prepared. Not that I know from experience…

Mel’s Response

Depends. Some great situations to create the perfect environment for said demands: 1) complain that sex is boring and suggest it as a way to spice things up 2) whine “my ex used to let me do it” 3) suggest it as a great quid pro quo for forgiveness if your lover does something wrong… like calls you by the wrong name.

If all else fails, there’s always the “oops, it slipped”.

Third question is from TextaholicsAnonymous

Is sexting ever acceptable when twating?

Jer’s Response

Yes. But be extra careful that you’re not mistakenly texting your mom. She may not appreciate being asked what she’s wearing or if she’s a dirty girl. And you had better not appreciate it if she answers honestly and opens up about her costume collection.

Mel’s Response

Always. I’m sexting, twating and blogging as we speak. Ability to multi-task is a sign of a great lover. I’m just sayin’

Fourth question is from DoubleStandards 

Should women and men both have to pay for online dating services? Both? Just one sex (and which)? Neither?

Jer’s Response

Dating services encourage people to be fake. Why would you pay for fake when there are so many great ways to meet “real”?

Mel’s Response

For the same features on the site? both. There are also plenty of free dating sites out there… and while we’re at it, why not try Craigslist’s Missed Connections? #sarcasmisthelowestformofhumor

Just remember — you get what you paid for.

What Do You Think?
When is too soon suggest using the back door? What’s the best way to deal after calling a lover by the wrong name? Do you think women should pay for online dating sites? Leave these and other responses in the comments below!